Why Birth Control is a College Woman’s Best Friend

The best time to get involved in planned parenthood is the time of your life when you least expect or want to be a parent. Why? Because by failing to plan not to have children, you open yourself up to the possibility, whether you’re ready or not.

Of course, there are many women who successfully balance school and kids, and even a full-time job. But when it comes to college, the less obligations on your time and money, the greater your likelihood of success, and the lower your stress levels.

So here’s why birth control is a college woman’s best friend, why abstinence doesn’t count, why withdrawal is ridiculous, and why condoms aren’t enough.

Abstinence Doesn’t Work

Whether for religious or other moral reasons, many women choose abstinence as their birth control method. However, with hormones running high and limitless opportunities for intimate encounters on campus, women should do more than abstain to protect themselves.

Sad to say, the high rates of rape and sexual harassment cases on campus also increase the possibility of not just unwanted and unplanned for partners, but their children as well.

Relying on Your Partner is Dangerous

Many sexually active females take another route: relying on birth control methods which require male compliance, like withdrawal or condoms.

The failure rate for couples using the withdrawal method is a whopping 27 percent each year.

A much better option, condoms are an integral part of sexual health, especially when it comes to treating the threat of STIs. However, this isn’t a guaranteed method of birth control either.

Why? As women increasingly delay motherhood or decide they don’t want children at all, some men resort to poking holes in condoms in a deliberate attempt to impregnate their partners. Some men are also stealthing ie removing the condom during intercourse without their partner’s consent.

You may or may not find yourself with such a partner. But are you willing to roll the dice?

The Cost Pays Off

Despite all the benefits of taking birth control into our own hands, female-led methods can be more expensive. With this in mind, one friend in college cited the cost of contraceptives as justification for using the withdrawal method, which she admitted didn’t always quite go as planned.

“Do you know how much the pill costs every month?” she asked me.

“Have you seen the price of diapers lately?” I returned.

Birth control does add an additional expense to the college woman’s budget, but it’s a much easier thing to budget for than the cost of raising a child, or having an abortion. Other birth control methods include patches, injections, and the IUD.

As the old adage goes:

Prevention is better than cure.

Women are Better Off Waiting to have Kids

While there are some anecdotal cases to the contrary, most women are better off waiting until later in life to have kids.

This doesn’t mean waiting until you’re brushing 40 to start trying for your first child. However, it does mean waiting until you have at least finished college, landed a good job, and stabilized your finances.

Studies show that women who wait until later in life to start a family, earn significantly more money than women of the same age, and with the same level of education, but who had a child (or children) earlier in life.

According to Business Insider:

For women between ages 40-45 with professional degrees and full-time jobs, those who gave birth to their first child at age 35 made more than $50,000 more per year than women who had their first child at 20, on average. Even waiting to start a family just five more years, at 35 instead of 30, made a difference of $16,000 per year, on average. 

In addition to this, when it comes to balancing a career and children, in many countries, women find themselves having to choose between one or the other. Or at the very least, they may have to put a strong pursuit of their careers on hold for years at a time to enjoy a more hands-on approach to raising their children.

For these mothers, waiting until they’ve already built up enough credibility, experience, and qualifications in their field will serve them well. These mothers usually have more clout at work, which allows them to schedule time off and make use of their vacation time, without it having a serious and negative impact on their career.

Of course, starting a family – or not – is a personal choice that each individual and couple must make for themselves. However, make an actual decision about whether or not you’re ready to be a parent. Rolling the dice and crossing your fingers could have you buying diapers much sooner than you originally planned.

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Alexis Chateau is the Founder of College Mate and Managing Director at Alexis Chateau PR. She is an activist, writer, and explorer. Follow her stories of trial and triumph at www.alexischateau.com.

 

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18 Comments Add yours

  1. Or just control yourself

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    1. As the article mentioned, self-control does not protect women against incidents of men who don’t take no for an answer. Please keep in mind also that many college students (like my husband) are married. Not every married couple is ready for a child. Thus, self-control serves no purpose in those situations. In any case, thanks for reading and commenting.

      Sorry for the late response. WordPress originally marked you as spam.

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      1. Yeah but women undertaking birth control in foresight of being a rape victim seems weird and wrong on many levels, wouldn’t you say?

        I don’t know what college has to do with anything, but self-control does help in marriages and any kind of romantic relationship regarding having a baby. We’re human beings capable of thought, you can’t just go “Whoops I’m pregnant, no idea how that happened” anymore.

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      2. I wasn’t referring only to rape, but also to incidents of men sabotaging women’s birth control. I have never experienced it, but I have witnessed it firsthand and heard many stories from men who tried it.

        The point of the article was to encourage women to take birth control into their own hands, rather than rely on their partners to have self-control. It takes two to make a baby, and a woman can only account for full control of herself. Self-control on one side does not make up for lack of self-control on the other. If we had so much control over our partners and their will, then we certainly wouldn’t have infidelity becoming such a big problem in society.

        Better safe than sorry.

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      3. Sabotaging birth control? Why would anyone do that?

        How can one person have self control but the other not? How does that work?

        Of course, I meant self control as in people NOT having babies randomly, not as in controlling what the other person does. “Having control” over your partner? Hell no. That’s not a relationship, not a healthy one at least.

        I think the only people who would benefit from taking birth control just because are people who have sex with whoever.

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      4. You are free to base your plans on life and relationship based on what you think people should do. I prefer to plan for myself and my life based on what people are doing. Reality trumps idealism every time, in the real world.

        Babies do not come about by sleeping around with multiple partners. It doesn’t even take one partner. All it takes is one sperm. So believing that birth control is only beneficial when sleeping around, to me, is ridiculous.

        But – to each their own. This was advice, not law. You can take it, or leave it.

        Have a good one!

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      5. I meant that of course, on the “idealism” that most responsible couples use condoms.

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    2. Pinkspen says:

      easier said than done! lol

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      1. I thought that was the point of this whole article… Lol

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      2. Pinkspen says:

        That’s definitely the point. Although it is easier said than done, i know my part in getting pregnant. Obviously, i was not doing much to prevent it. I love anyone that tries to help younger generations not to do the same things, expecting different results! That’s insane! I wish I would have protected myself, my dreams, goals, but overall, i wouldn’t trade my daughter for any of that! She’s sooo awesome and she is making me a better person every day!

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  2. Pinkspen says:

    This is such a true post that every college student should read! I got pregnant a month before I was about to graduate college with my Master’s in Social Work. I was so embarrassed because I was the type to talk about girls who would allow themselves to get pregnant right when their lives are about to begin….but it happened, and I do not regret it to this day. My daughter is a blessing! But, I would advise those to be careful about who they let in their beds. Please check out my posts about College life:
    https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/2016/09/01/college-101-for-freshman-females-2/
    https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/2016/10/03/the-wanna-come-over-and-watch-a-movie-trick-college-101-for-freshman-females/
    https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/2015/12/14/superior-women-are-not-equal/
    https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/2016/01/07/the-college-girl-rulebook-rule-1/
    I would love anyone’s feedback!!!!!!!!!

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    1. There was a girl in my year who got pregnant as well. She pulled through, but she was a mess emotionally.

      I was single for my university years, and lived on birth control, so I had nothing to worry about really. I was a workaholic even then! πŸ˜‚

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      1. Pinkspen says:

        I had to get my degree. It was so important to me. I was so proud of myself, still am. My daughter definitely slowed me down, but I’m still pushing. Thank you for the motivation!!!!!!!

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  3. Jackson Miller says:

    Great article Alexis! Contrary to the aggressive comments I think this was a well-needed message to be spread and if it helps just one woman be more safe and protected then it’s worth it, great job!

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    1. Thanks Jackson! I’m always amazed by how many women want to police and restrict the rights of others. Glad to see a man step forward and agree on this one.

      All the best!

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